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Speaking as a shy person, who managed to mostly outgrow his shyness, remember these simple pieces of advice:

Know when you're being obnoxious, and don't be. Be nice, but don't let others push you around. Talk less, listen more, people like it when others listen to their BS, and don't like to listen to your BS. Don't be arrogant, don't assume people are stupider than you, even if they are. Be funny, but only from time to time, if you find yourself making an ass of yourself all or most of the time, calm down. Most importantly, be bold. Start small, talk to a stranger, do something stupid, or anything that makes you a bit uncomfortable, and gradually move up to the harder stuff, like asking a girl out, or something like that.

Don't be afraid of humiliating yourself to much. After you internalize the fact that being humiliated isn't so bad, being bold will not be to much of a problem, and you'll be less shy.

p.s.(if you have bad hygiene, start with that, being smelly makes most of the above advice useless.)




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