A good book that explores some of these factors for our environment is Rare Earth by Peter D. Ward and Donald Brownlee.
While it's true that life "out there" may look vastly different, I feel like sometimes ET-optimists use that as a hand-wavy defense that overlooks two curious details: First, we haven't found any different-looking-life-out-there on, say, Venus, or Mars... so clearly even in a solar system with some "lucky" aspects for life there are plenty of environments where life just doesn't "find a way." Second, the relative quickness with which our kind of life appeared in Earth's history suggests an oddity that we haven't even found other examples of our-general-kind-of-life out there.
A good book that explores some of the proposed solutions to the Fermi Paradox is Where is Everybody? by Stephen Webb. (It does a good job using math to explain why it's a little surprising that we haven't found ET life even within our own galaxy, and it does a good job knocking down most of the sociological explanations by noting that it would require every other civilization in the galaxy to behave that way with no exceptions.)
While it's true that life "out there" may look vastly different, I feel like sometimes ET-optimists use that as a hand-wavy defense that overlooks two curious details: First, we haven't found any different-looking-life-out-there on, say, Venus, or Mars... so clearly even in a solar system with some "lucky" aspects for life there are plenty of environments where life just doesn't "find a way." Second, the relative quickness with which our kind of life appeared in Earth's history suggests an oddity that we haven't even found other examples of our-general-kind-of-life out there.
A good book that explores some of the proposed solutions to the Fermi Paradox is Where is Everybody? by Stephen Webb. (It does a good job using math to explain why it's a little surprising that we haven't found ET life even within our own galaxy, and it does a good job knocking down most of the sociological explanations by noting that it would require every other civilization in the galaxy to behave that way with no exceptions.)