It's not hard to titrate your fee to your desired confirmation speed. Just look at the mempool, sorted by fee and age of transaction: https://bitcoinfees.earn.com/
If everyone else does the same you're out of luck. Your best bet is to pay a lot more and hope you pay more than the others.
This is because you're not only competeing against the transactions in the mempool but also against future transactions which may enter after you make your transcation and before more blocks are found.
