I think it would be easier to have a conversation that cares about human emotions and get results, than to insult others and lose perspective of those involved. The recent flak over Node COC is a extremely good example about how "having an honest conversation even if it hurts people," is extremely destructive. [1]

[1] https://www.theregister.co.uk/2017/08/24/nodejs_forks_ayo_co...