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Not sure why you're getting downvoted -- it's a perfectly reasonable question.

The two biggest reasons are: people like security and intimacy; and they want to raise a family with someone.

You can argue that you don't need marriage for those things, and technically you don't, but whatever alternative you land on (especially for raising a family) will likely be effectively identical to marriage in practice. You can opt out of family and long-term relationships altogether, but you'll be missing out on a central part of the human experience.

If the "early termination fees" are your biggest concern, find someone with similar views and get a prenup. Or just stay together without officially getting married. You'll lose tax benefits, but if it's important to you go for it.

If that didn't answer the question you intended to ask, you'll need to clarify what you meant by a more modern approach. What are you imagining that looks like?




I tried to answer to your question here https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15179002




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