So women don't think you're a real man. And the solution: throw away expression of the personality you like and want to be and respect, turn all interactions with women into a game, and carefully craft yourself and all your presentation with single-minded purpose into a seduction machine.
I think that the solution is three-fold.
1) Find the right community/context. If you live in a community where evaluation is too shallow, then move. Find a different place to hang out. It's a big world out there, and there's all sorts of contexts. There are contexts where people are not completely vapid.
2) Substance. Be willing to die alone for your values. Are you? If you're not, then don't take this path. If you are, then welcome, brother! (+) In the meantime, do substantive things. Competence is sexy so have it, not just its semblance. Combine this with some genuine fun, and it's a killer combination.
3) Find ways to "be more you." One thing that impressed me about some of the hairdressers on "What Not to Wear" was their ability to make someone more who they were. They didn't jack with someone's identity, they just cleaned it up a bit.
(+) - Hetero women have a similar path that they can take, but it's not the exact same one as for hetero men. As for other orientations, there must be analogues, but I don't feel qualified to comment.
I think that the solution is three-fold.
1) Find the right community/context. If you live in a community where evaluation is too shallow, then move. Find a different place to hang out. It's a big world out there, and there's all sorts of contexts. There are contexts where people are not completely vapid.
2) Substance. Be willing to die alone for your values. Are you? If you're not, then don't take this path. If you are, then welcome, brother! (+) In the meantime, do substantive things. Competence is sexy so have it, not just its semblance. Combine this with some genuine fun, and it's a killer combination.
3) Find ways to "be more you." One thing that impressed me about some of the hairdressers on "What Not to Wear" was their ability to make someone more who they were. They didn't jack with someone's identity, they just cleaned it up a bit.
(+) - Hetero women have a similar path that they can take, but it's not the exact same one as for hetero men. As for other orientations, there must be analogues, but I don't feel qualified to comment.