The kind of humour I enjoy includes dry self deprecation
Yeah, self-deprecating humor is definitely romantic death, I've kicked the habit over the years.
The reason I asked about interests is that 95% of my time is spent with interests that women find uninteresting - programming, reading history, reading economics, sports. Thus when I talk with women, I make sure to only talk about the 5% (design, architecture, society, relationships, psychology, travel) that women find interesting. In this way I am both authentic to myself ( I am genuinely interested in these topics), but also can make decent conversation.
I'm really not after help, though I recognize you and others would sincerely like to provide it.
I used to have a similar attitude to you, and similar droughts. So I feel oddly compelled to give the unsolicited advice that I wish someone had given me.
I have the personality of leader, and I'm going to develop myself into more of one, and women can just go to guys like you when they want to tingle and shit.
The arts of leadership are in many ways the arts of seduction.
make a ton more money and get a lot more power
All the best to you, but in the modern world this is one of the least efficient ways to try and find female companionship.
> interests that women find uninteresting - programming, reading history, reading economics, sports. Thus when I talk with women, I make sure to only talk about the 5% (design, architecture, society, relationships, psychology, travel)
Wow... are you sure that all women are so homogeneous?
Yeah, self-deprecating humor is definitely romantic death, I've kicked the habit over the years.
The reason I asked about interests is that 95% of my time is spent with interests that women find uninteresting - programming, reading history, reading economics, sports. Thus when I talk with women, I make sure to only talk about the 5% (design, architecture, society, relationships, psychology, travel) that women find interesting. In this way I am both authentic to myself ( I am genuinely interested in these topics), but also can make decent conversation.
I'm really not after help, though I recognize you and others would sincerely like to provide it.
I used to have a similar attitude to you, and similar droughts. So I feel oddly compelled to give the unsolicited advice that I wish someone had given me.
I have the personality of leader, and I'm going to develop myself into more of one, and women can just go to guys like you when they want to tingle and shit.
The arts of leadership are in many ways the arts of seduction.
make a ton more money and get a lot more power
All the best to you, but in the modern world this is one of the least efficient ways to try and find female companionship.