The internet (by which I mean written text, like here) does not have voice tone. Your perception that my words are highly condescending and cold is your bias showing. My actual voice tone IRL is apparently pretty deferential, which is likely a contributing factor to the online friction I experience. The same words said with my actual voice often goes over just fine.
Having said that, I will note (in case you are not aware of it) that I appear to be the highest ranked openly female member of hn. I didn't get there by randomly being a bitch to #allmen. I have, in fact, gone to great lengths to put people at ease while continuing to participate anyway, in spite of being a woman.
Having said that, I will note (in case you are not aware of it) that I appear to be the highest ranked openly female member of hn. I didn't get there by randomly being a bitch to #allmen. I have, in fact, gone to great lengths to put people at ease while continuing to participate anyway, in spite of being a woman.