Call me old-fashioned, but I just send relevant messages to girls that I think I might like. Not everything is some mathematical operation to optimize.
Actually the best way I connect to girls is to be openly nerdy. Show the excitement, but keep it short so they don't get bored.
As for the queuing models & Petri nets, assuming everyone understood I was a more than a little tongue-in-cheek:
- Setup your net as a cycle between weekdays and weekends. I only use 1 week of forward planning, so my base net is 3 weekdays (I save a few weekdays for non-dating) and 2 weekend days. 5 vertices.
- Duplicate the net for different stages, roughly equating one stage per date sequence number. E.g stage 1 is first date, stage 2 is the second date, etc.
- Each girl is a token.
- Each token in each stage tells you how your day is likely to go, once you equate the stage # to an expected progress level. Especially early on in the dating sequence, dates can be short, so multiple dates can be stacked into a day (e.g. an afternoon 1st date vs a dinner/movie 3rd date that night).
Nothing fancy by any means. Note, again, that this is pretty tongue-in-cheek, but it does help me keep a rational (and semi-quantitative) focus on what is fundamentally a numbers game. I don't lose my cool on dates b/c each one I understand as a single token, instead of freaking out on how this or that girl could be "the one."
Edit: clearly this needs work, but I'll have to look up Petri nets again before tightening this up.
