I've never been to India, but of course have eaten lots of spicy Indian food in restaurants. The one time I had dinner at an Indian person's home (in China) she made dishes that were so hot I had to stop. I don't know where in India she was from. They were absolutely delicious, but so spicy I had to take a break. There were these hunks of fish with some sort of herb/spice mixture seared into the outside...