I feel like in modern usage, "embedded" has shifted to refer less to the constraints imposed by size and power and cost (because, increasingly, there aren't any), and more to the extra peripherals present. Basically "working in embedded systems" now means what "robotics" used to mean.
Has your thing got always-on sensors, or actuators, or both? Your job title is probably "embedded software developer."
Has your thing got always-on sensors, or actuators, or both? Your job title is probably "embedded software developer."