Initially I was wondering where you saw the connection between BDSM and Flash. But thinking about it a little more I do get it now. Visiting a site full of Flash sometimes makes me feel beaten up and spat upon. Web Masters are clearly trying to dominate and humiliate me and Flash is their tool of choice.
I don't mind flash but I found this hilarious. How exactly does a video format treat you so badly ? Flash eats up my CPU like crazy but it seems to run just fine when viewing sites like TheDailyShow.com or Hulu.
You're absolutely right. It all depends on how it is being used. I wasn't completely serious obviously, but so many websites use Flash in a way that is insulting to their users in my view.