Yeah, I guess it sounds like I have a control problem, but I'd like to think it's a combination of the two; I don't want to share my PRECIOUS with someone who I don't know or trust well enough.
That totally makes sense- don't blame you. There are vesting plans and cliffs for that. i.e. you could say, "you're a provisional owner for 6 months and after than you vest n% per month to a maximum of x%". That way you can date before you marry and there is a provision for punting him any time in the process (or him wanting to quit).
