I fail to see how the subject of the sentence has any relevance to how offensive it is, if it indeed contains disparaging remarks. If I wrote in a blog post
> I stopped being a stupid ni _ _ er and smartened up
any well adjusted person would be offended by that statement. Even though I was referring to myself.
> if I had only manned up and broken out sed, but I pussied out and wrote some Python
It's very frustrating when people try to take an argument out of its context.