Sorry to hear. But surely you have to agree that your introversion has handicapped you significantly in life?
From your own story, it sounds like it stopped you from being able to complete a degree program and has cost you job opportunities. It sounds like something worth working on fixing or at least working around.
I was a super shy kid and am still way on the introverted side of the spectrum. But I've learned to work on teams and to lead them. It's a skill, like any other. Much like you couldn't blame the paratroopers for rejecting you for refusing to jump out of planes, you can't really blame a school or employer for rejecting you if you refuse to learn to overcome your aversion to working with groups.
> Sorry to hear. But surely you have to agree that your introversion has handicapped you significantly in life?
Not significantly. Yes, but which is the cause ? My personality or the standard people deems normal ? Not saying I'm normal, but maybe it's a chicken egg problem. There are tolerances and expectations at play.
Oh and by handicapped I meant like introversion is overlooked as a mental illness, like lonely people are somehow retarded.
> you can't really blame a school or employer for rejecting you if you refuse to learn to overcome your aversion to working with groups.
I'm not blaming anybody, but at some point people have to learn about it and not just run with it like it's a standard.
Also, higher education programs should not be meant to teach people how to work with groups. How do you really expect people to learn something technical by forcing them to socialize ?
All my scores were fine or high, except for those stupid team project which counted for a huge score coefficient.
Failed so many job interviews because I don't have a degree or because I'm less social.
The worst is when some director argued with me that human are a social species.
Just like Susan Cain wrote about it, it really seems that there is a Salesman culture. It almost seems that we considers introverts to be handicapped.