Yes, in Western (or at least American) society men do tend to pursue women more actively than vice-versa. This is probably true in most cultures though I don't have firsthand experience.
No, you do not need to be "handsome, wealthy and well endowed (i.e. perfect)" in order to avoid being "at the mercy of women."
Just try to put up a fake profile on a dating site as
an experiment and see what ends up in your mailbox over
the course of a few days.
I ran a dating site, actually. Saw lots of guys who weren't "perfect" have a great time and find success in relationships. Me included.
> Saw lots of guys who weren't "perfect" have a great time and find success in relationships
That's not the point. The point is the relative difference in effort. And it's not just that men tend to pursue, but that the starting point on dating sites is so extremely uneven - the threshold to message someone is so low that men approach at a far higher rate than they dare to in real life, and approach women well outside of the "range" they'd normally do.
What's indisputable is that women get flooded with offers on dating sites. We agree there.
Whether or not this means that women can more easily find successful and enjoyable dates and/or relationships on dating sites... is another story.
An inbox full of unwanted advances from a bunch of strangers is not exactly a liberating experience, I wouldn't think. Certainly women I know don't think so.
They clearly have a greater number of suitors to choose from, yes, but like you say - men tend to approach women in such great numbers that there's no way to know who's worth pursuing.
How do you have a quality conversation with a stranger when 100 strangers are trying to talk to you simultaneously?
To top it off, the stakes are a little higher for women. A woman is one mistake (or one instance of violated consent) away from getting pregnant. A woman is always one step away from being sexually assaulted. Obviously men can be victims too, but adult female-on-male sexual assault is vanishingly rare.
Yes, in Western (or at least American) society men do tend to pursue women more actively than vice-versa. This is probably true in most cultures though I don't have firsthand experience.
No, you do not need to be "handsome, wealthy and well endowed (i.e. perfect)" in order to avoid being "at the mercy of women."
I ran a dating site, actually. Saw lots of guys who weren't "perfect" have a great time and find success in relationships. Me included.