I had kids who were in their 20s when in my low 40s and now have a five year old at 60. I am convinced my energy level continues to be good because I'm spending it interacting with her. Last week I even fell off the slide at the playground while playing tag :)
I definitely feel this too, the motivation is there to be ready for anything, because you really have no choice even, like dad reflexes as therapy.
There’s something to this for sure from a biological survival standpoint, having kids is naturally the completion of puberty, and the growth you experience raising children has so many more dimensions than the growth you experience while you’re still the one being raised.
It may very well be something more fundamental to health than we currently appreciate in modern life. Or perhaps it’s some kind of “law of equivalent exchange” where we have merely traded poisons from one cause of death to another, in terms of life expectancy.
It seems we can more easily avoid war and disease and famine today but modern living can end up being a trap that causes a significant number of people to experience a “failure to thrive” of sorts.
Energy and health are personal. Age correlation with health is just statisical. I had a 75 year old come and drive miles and fix my air conditioning. Fit as a fiddle.
I met my wife when I was 17 ... And she was 14. We started dating when I was 19 and she was 17 and (soon) we'll celebrate our 38th anniversary. I guess it's easy for me to say but isn't it more about finding the right person? Like you, we complement each other but we also support each other. It's is against the world and we're making our own ride count!
I think a lot of it is you have a chance to grow a bit together before your habits, desires, and life goals have calcified. I'd really have a hard time dating now in middle age, as I really have little enthusiasm to "meet in the middle" like I did when in my 20s.
We were young and flexible when we met. We’ve grown together like two trees planted next to each other. We’re all tangled up and leaning on each other.
One bright side of ICANN being a California non-profit is that when they tried to sell off .org to their own confederates so they could juice up the prices they were stopped from doing it. If they were in other places, I imagine it would have gone through.
I partially solved this problem by getting bigger (4k) monitors and sitting farther from them. My eyes are now over five feet from my screens. I also also try to follow the 20-20-20-20 rule but need a better timer.
"Starting today, there are two options for Opsgenie customers: move to Jira Service Management for robust end-to-end incident management, or move to Compass for alerting and on-call management alongside an intuitive software component catalog."
Or do something sane like move off Atlassian products completely.
I lost my mother last Wednesday and today would have been her 85th birthday. Her life wasn't truncated like the OP's story or many of the comments here but ... These anecdotes are making me realize that I'm not really recognizing my loss yet.
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