I'm not sure how they intend to police photos of their daughter as taken by cameras not under their control, or on accounts not under their control, or other information posted about her by friends and family. Given the technologies involved, it would not be terribly hard to infer the daughter's photographs and personal information (name, etc.) and connect the two. There's also the very real possibility that she may not be interested in their idea of her personality and identity by the time she's grown up.
You write articles about how you want your childs privacy to be respected and hope some of your friends pay attention.
I have a young child, it's normal for most people to ask my permission before putting photos of him on facebook. Generally, the people who live their lives on facebook over-sharing everything don't tend to ask, though I don't know too many people like that..
However, a mechanism for sites that use the standard questions is to manufacture a set of fictitious names and use those everywhere. e.g. Father's name - "Keyser Soze". First car make and model, "Millennium Falcon", etc.
There is the overhead of remembering these but that is not too hard with some thought and repeated use.