I read the book awhile ago and practice it extensively in my personal and work life.
Being up front and honest about what you want, including what you don’t want, is an incredible force multiplier.
Some people can’t handle it and that’s ok with me. It just means we likely won’t work together effectively. I view it as a matter of maturity, we’re all adults here.
I don’t pander and I make that clear up front. Almost everyone respects and responds positively.
My friends wife lost an eye due to complications from a booster.
The vaccine has real side effects, the faster we can have a civic conversation about it the better off we all are.
I have severe cardiovascular problems and cannot get the vaccine. I’m judged and called an antivaxxer all the time. It’s not us vs them, we’re all in it together.
Being open and honest is always the best path. Especially when you disagree.
I agree that everyone is a bit quick to judge, and I’m sorry you’re more vulnerable because of a preexisting condition. And I’m sorry to hear of that kind of complication from any medication. I hope she was able to make a claim and get compensation through the adverse effects program (assuming you’re in the US).
My dad gets the flu shot each year. He’s not an anti-vaxxer. The COVID shot seems different though.
My dad still refuses to get a vaccine because all he hears is mis- and disinformation. He’s recently changed to “leaning toward getting the shot,” which is great, but he wants to drive another family member around this weekend who is currently suffering from COVID-19.
Being open and honest with him, I told him the most likely outcome for him, and even held back on how grim his particular prognosis would likely be given his risk factors. But people don’t want to hear the reality.
That reality is that these vaccines are, statistically, safe and effective for the vast majority of the population. (I know that you weren’t asserting otherwise, and that you aren’t in that majority.) There comes a point when refusal to engage with that reality in typical circumstances becomes a dividing line. It might be fear driven for those who don’t have a contraindicated condition, but it’s hard not think of refusal by people in medically typical circumstances, at this point, to be precious and selfish.
I find your story very interesting, because it's a pattern I've heard several times before: someone who does not want to get vaccinated because of the risk of side effects, but is willing to expose themselves, to a greater degree than is necessary, to the risk of covid.
It seems that for some people there's an intrinsically greater distrust of vaccines (a synthetic thing) than disease (a natural thing).
Hacker news routinely removes comments about the vaccine dangers and calling it flame bait, and itches to ban me or anyone else who talks about those things.
It's a long time since we were in this together. It's against the people who don't vaccinate now.
Your friend's wife and you are absolutely not antivaxxers. You're the folks that we're trying to protect with herd immunity via vaccination, because you cannot get a vaccine.
I’m referring to the mental toll the protocol takes. I am sure for some people it’s a win.
It seems like overkill, a massive over reaction, to me. It’s just a feeling, and I look forward to the mental health studies that will eventually come.
+1 I understand. I have friends and family members who refuse the vaccinations, and I believe that is their right. The idea of mandates in a free society bugs me, I don’t like it. I am grateful to get experimental vaccines that I think help more than hurt.
My wife and I have tried to make life as normal and enjoyable during Covid-19. One thing that helps hugely is seeing friends and family often, but outside. Breakfast and coffee in a yard, or everyone take a picnic lunch to a park. Every moment we live is a gift, and everyone needs to figure out for themselves how to live a free and inspired life.
GP is making the rhetorical point that people take safety precautions against risk every day, such as wearing a seatbelt to protect against the risk of a crash, but don’t call it “living in fear.” However, taking the precaution of a Covid test to protect against the risk of serious illness is called “living in fear.”
GP is therefore implying that GGP is making an insincere appeal to emotion rather than engaging with the discussion at hand.
I'm also this way: but I can easily see how it's easy to not be.
It feels like every app asks to display notifications; and sometimes I think of how the functionality of the app could be negatively affected. (Uber, for instance, could notify me when my cab is nearby)- but once the power is given they can spam you with self-promotion.
There’s nothing wrong with write offs, about half of my income is paid to the government. I will always do everything I can to minimize my tax liability, and it’s natural to do so.
> The climate comments here are virtue signaling. Like it or not it was completely legal.
Laws come and go. It’s not hard to think of things that seem blatantly wrong now, that were formerly legal. Do we describe those that wanted the law changes that have since occurred as ‘virtue signalling’?
Making money by pouring oil into the environment seems pretty clearly wrong.
I’d argue that the behaviour of the protagonists in the article is virtue signalling, they are seemingly doing good things for their community while actually damaging the place.
What a convenient way to shut down a valid argument. The whole thrust is that the incentives are encouraging negative externalities by legalizing them and providing tax breaks for polluting. I don't like it, and it should be called out - more people need to be aware that these things keep happening because it's benefitting some rich knob.
why did companies work so well before? Where are all these crappy candidates coming from when companies worked perfectly well with old-style interviews?
It %100 is indoctrination. I have my own gripes with the public school system that go against woke culture but there is literally nothing I can do except pony up for a private education.
What's stopping you from pulling your kids out of school if you hate it so much? Genuinely curious..
is it childcare, a fear that you don't know how to teach, how to get started, worries about social learning? A lot of families are doing homeschooling, modular learning, microschooling...
Also as someone who has taught in public and private schools, I will tell you that even the most elite private schools are not that much better. It's still a group of kids in one class doing way too much homework and very little freedom to pursue their own interests.
Just as public school students are being indoctrinated, so are private school students. Indoctrinated, perhaps into different systems. The elite want to keep their kids elite, so maybe they are being indoctrinated into becoming the future leaders of wall Street and tech companies - and the government wants to control its citizens (there are some good reasons of course, for that, but a lot of bad reasons). Oddly, a lot of public school systems like bells and desks are designed to prepare kids to work for jobs in factories, so I'm not even sure this indoctrination is successful because it's a bit antiquated. Just hard to change.
Or modular learning? I'm trying to advance the idea that there's a better word that better defines a decentralized approach to education which is not school at home, but school out in the world, drawing on the best resources available for each child's individual education https://manisharoses.medium.com/not-school-or-homeschooling-...
Well there's "unschool", if you want a term that emphasizes that it's not school, but the way it's done is way more important than whatever it ends up being called.
As Caplan mentions in the above post, he's troubled by unschoolers' subpar math skills, linking to a post citing a study. I don't think the blog post you cited addresses that point (among other points).
