Lookism is devastatingly real. Studies have shown that attractive people are more likely to succeed. Even babies respond better to attractive people than they do unattractive people. There are so many upsides to being attractive that it makes sense to wonder if you could use an adjustment to your appearance.
It's not entirely useful to rely on what the people around you say. Of course your friends say that you don't need plastic surgery. Would you stay friends with them if you decided not to follow through with the procedure, knowing they think you're ugly? If even the female ones say you don't need surgery, just compare the way they treat you to the way they treat an objectively handsome man. In the presence of a handsome man, they're either fighting an incredible urge to throw themselves at him or they're sliding into his DMs without drawing attention to it.
Having said that, plastic surgery can only do so much. The celebrities you see who have undergone procedures went from pretty to striking. Then, there are the over-done celebrities whose deformed faces you would only stare at to gawk. You think you're ugly now? At least you can blame nature for being so externally repulsive.
Let's get back to your question of how best to reason through these considerations. The methodology you use to evaluate plastic surgery is honesty. Every time you lie to yourself, your life gets worse. Good luck!
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