I've a Manager who loves one thing - Ask questions. No answer ever comes from him, but he keeps on asking questions. And as you can imagine, I am always at the end of it giving him answers. If I ask clarification questions back, he counters that with a "Five Why" type questioning and most of the time I get frustrated, owns it up to give answers and cut the conversation.
After a few months working under him, I started wearing out and started taking it personally. I started attacking him back. Not only did that cause friction between us, he gave me a bad performance review rating. I didn't give up and kept resisting one way questioning. I reminded company pays him for providing solutions and answers when his team is in need, and not sit there asking questions.
A friend of mine understood the pains I go through, and suggested I read the book, "How to master the subtle art of not giving a f*ck". I can say I am now at peace and don't care a sh#t about most things. I am still employed, but stopped worrying and taking things personally.
I personally like this Socratic approach, but if person A kept avoiding giving answers constantly, even if it’s clear that the other interlocutor is getting frustrated by this approach, then, to me, it means that person A is not able to give any answer in that domain and they think that their job can be done by a chatbot and by following an inflexible approach.
I thought this was going to be a positive story about how his approach helped teach you to explore solutions via the Socratic method, I wasn't expecting your reaction at all.
Many people would hate a manager who only gave solutions, often described as micro-managing. Here we have a manager who seems hated because he only asked questions.
Yes, same! My approach to less-critical PR comments tends to involve asking questions instead of saying "this is wrong/bad" so I was hoping it would be a positive story too.
I can see how a manager never providing actual guidance could be very frustrating though! I do recall a similar situation in the distant past, and in that case the manager was completely out of his depth and could do nothing but bluff.
I currently live in the US. Back in India where I am originally from, we have house roof tops which are flat. Most of us would spend an hour or more on the roof top, after dinner, staring at the sky and talking. Sometimes we wave and talk to the neighbor from the roof top. This I would say is a routine thing in most households after dinner. I miss that dearly in the US.
Preamble - I will be downvoted for sure, but let me still post it.
The oldest software system known to us, and in continuous use would be 'religion'. The hardware in this case is obviously humans. If you observe, the computer and its I/O all are derived from the hardware known to humans, and it is the human itself.
If you see, the hardware features rarely changed, but the software in this case updated and adapted to all situations and has been running for many centuries now. It probably can be related to STUXNET or affects only certain type of hardware. I know this is not the original post about, but this just came out as a thought.
I've a free Google Voice number I use as proxy. If I've to use a phone number for one time use (maintenance person, Online waiver forms etc) I give the google voice number. For friends, families, banks, office, I give my ATT number. So far it has kept me away from spams. My Google Voice number gets all the spam and I care less.
Pogo was (still is?) a famous kids channel in India. There was a lot of comments back then that it was taken from them. Zoho is a $1B without copyright issues on their logo. So it doesn't matter anyway.
India is considered a "cheap and poor" country in many ways. It's GDP is 1/10th that of United States. Even then, India has free health care, and in many states (out of the 30+ states), Govt run healthcare is the best. Woman give birth to babies and walk out paying almost nothing, men break their bones and walk out paying nothing after a month of staying in hospitals and such. Insurance is never heard of or forced to, unless you own a automobile and pays insurance to drive it on roads. No monopoly of any kind.
And there are arguments against all these points, I concur. I just said it for the American folks to know.
Huh. 8 or 9 years ago I visited somebody in a hospital in rural India (maybe 100km from Hubli), and this was definitely not the case. A man was being ejected (after intake!) from the hospital with acute appendicitis because he and his family was unable to pay. There were probably 3 nurses in the hospital and 40 patients over several floors. The degraded ductwork and disgusting window mount aircon looked like legionnaires disease would kill anybody who could afford to stay.
Has a lot changed in the last decade? Is the “good” healthcare just in wealthier areas? Was this just an extreme outlier?
Nominal GDP is not the best way to compare countries in these matters. Purchasing power parity might be a better metric as we are talking about service Indians can get in their own country.
After a few months working under him, I started wearing out and started taking it personally. I started attacking him back. Not only did that cause friction between us, he gave me a bad performance review rating. I didn't give up and kept resisting one way questioning. I reminded company pays him for providing solutions and answers when his team is in need, and not sit there asking questions.
A friend of mine understood the pains I go through, and suggested I read the book, "How to master the subtle art of not giving a f*ck". I can say I am now at peace and don't care a sh#t about most things. I am still employed, but stopped worrying and taking things personally.