Problem: people are unhappy, sounds like you found the trivial solution, no? Your explanation sums to me as "don't do things that make you unhappy, do things that make you happy".
Problem: it's hard to connect with people, do things that connect with people. Do them with lots of people till you find connections.
My central thesis here is that solving normal every day problems, the kind that people write into Dear Abby about, is usually pretty simple. It's why Dear Abby and similar columns have
a) been around for decades
b) are given just a couple inches of column space
c) answer half a dozen "life problems" every week in under 2 paragraphs.
Would it come across better if I framed it as a Dear Abby question? Nobody seems to have particular problems with her? If you strip away the polite wording, her solutions are usually one or two sentences.
Or would it be better if I padded the simple solution in easier to digest language like Dear Abby?
Problem: People Die
Solution: I'm very sorry that people die. It's a sad thing when a particularly bright light, who's contributed so much to the world, and so much yet to contribute, is snuffed out. People have desired long and hard for an end to the end, but it's a simple fact of life. Learning to accept death, and find closure, without dwelling in the past (move forward in celebration of their life!) is an important part of living your own life.
Does that make you feel better? The solution is no different. But now we've both wasted time getting to it. It's not any more complex than it was before, but now it's coated with sugar. That's not problem solving.
Here's an article acknowledging and celebrating this
Problem: people are unhappy, sounds like you found the trivial solution, no? Your explanation sums to me as "don't do things that make you unhappy, do things that make you happy".
Problem: it's hard to connect with people, do things that connect with people. Do them with lots of people till you find connections.
My central thesis here is that solving normal every day problems, the kind that people write into Dear Abby about, is usually pretty simple. It's why Dear Abby and similar columns have
a) been around for decades
b) are given just a couple inches of column space
c) answer half a dozen "life problems" every week in under 2 paragraphs.
Would it come across better if I framed it as a Dear Abby question? Nobody seems to have particular problems with her? If you strip away the polite wording, her solutions are usually one or two sentences.
Or would it be better if I padded the simple solution in easier to digest language like Dear Abby?
Problem: People Die
Solution: I'm very sorry that people die. It's a sad thing when a particularly bright light, who's contributed so much to the world, and so much yet to contribute, is snuffed out. People have desired long and hard for an end to the end, but it's a simple fact of life. Learning to accept death, and find closure, without dwelling in the past (move forward in celebration of their life!) is an important part of living your own life.
Does that make you feel better? The solution is no different. But now we've both wasted time getting to it. It's not any more complex than it was before, but now it's coated with sugar. That's not problem solving.
Here's an article acknowledging and celebrating this
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/01/17/words-of-wi...
Read very carefully her advice and see if it's materially different than mine.