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I did the best I could with my body except now that I am 63 I have one regret: I wish I had more sex when I was able. I mean, I had sex but I could have had a lot more. It's seems dumb now to deny this basic pleasure for "reasons"


I've had a reasonably full life so far but my favorite memories are all sexual ones, so this is legit.


I wonder what you really mean by this. Do you wish to have had sex with a greater number of women? Or do you wish you just had more sex with your partner/s?

If it's the former, I believe this is something all men want deep down. Religion has done well to squash this desire and many deny they have it at all, but they do. But it's like chasing the dragon. I don't think you can ever really satisfy this urge.

If it's the latter, why did you not have more sex at the time? Did you want it at the time? Now I live with one partner I have almost as much sex as I want with a single partner. But it's a lot less than I used to have/want.


> But it's like chasing the dragon. I don't think you can ever really satisfy this urge.

I theorize that people who believe this haven't really tried. In my experience it's easier than it seems; definitely not an insurmountable task.


I agree with this. I’ve had a very adventorous and fulfilling sex life in my teens and especially twenties, including polyamorous relationships, etc., and now I’m 33, in a monogamous relationship for close to three years,p and fully content. I don’t feel like I have anything to prove anymore sexually and it’s quite liberating.


A lot of older men like to be seen with young, pretty women for the status of it. That part of it, the status seeking, can never be satiated.


I would pay for it now if that was all there was. Why not? I pay for someone to fix my car. I pay someone to do my taxes. Some women view themselves as sex workers providing a service. I would take them up on that now if I were younger.


I had sex, and could have had more, but those would have been with partners I wasn't attracted to. Is that what you mean? Or did you actively pursue a lot of partners and decide, for whatever reason, to do it with just a few?


No, I held out for another right woman after breaking up with the right woman. There were long periods of drought in my sex life.


I know that feeling. Hope you were able to find the right person again.


Hey you missed out on some STD risk too.


It looks like you might be being downvoted, but this is super valid. Herpes and HPV are extremely common among those who are sexually active. It's virtually impossible to avoid either and have lots of sex with multiple partners.

But obviously one can have lots of sex with a single monogamous partner though without any new risk of STDs.


One of the two you mentioned has a vaccine that many get as a teen now and the other is an occasional rash for most carriers.

Obviously everyone should consider the risks associated with having sex with lots of partners but those two particular STD's are pretty low on that list of risks.


True. I only mentioned then because they're virtually omnipresent and are transmitted from skin to skin contact where a condom offers only partial protection at best.

Many other STDs need some sort of fluid transmission which is at least easier to avoid.

Also, the vaccine only protects from a few of the hundreds(?) of strains of HPV. It protects from those varieties that are most likely to cause cervical cancer, but generally not those that cause genital warts.




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